So much to discuss. So here we go.

How long does it take the fall in love? Honestly what part of a person makes you click and just realize "wow I really love this person". I assume its more than one factor but even so. Can you put a time frame on feelings? Personally, American culture has skewed my feelings on love altogether. I don't know what I really want. How I'm supposed to figure it out. When I know that yes this is what I have been looking for. It goes back to that cheesy quote "you're everything I never knew I always wanted". But back to the beginning, how do you truly know? I went to have coffee with an old friend from my early high school days yesterday. I'd say she knows me pretty well and only people who knew me back then can really say they know who I am deep deep down. I told her the current situation and just as everyone else felt awful and called him terrible things. I understand thats what you do when someone hurts you or breaks your heart but to be honest they're not a bad person. They're truly a great person who I felt treated me very well just made a bad move. When I explained this to her she looked at me and flat out said "Oh my God, you love him". It sounded like it came right out of a movie in fact when she said it I felt like I was in one. This is what lead to this blog. How long do you need to know someone to say you love them? In movies they claim it takes days, maybe a few weeks but thats also written by someone in their head where every move is planned out. Is attraction enough anymore or do you have to know certain things about them? My friend sparked this interest in my head that no one else had said to me. Can you really love someone you don't know very much about? What are the qualifications? I'm sure even supposed experts on love and even people who may have been married forever don't even know the answer. It's an interesting thing to ponder and there's obviously no right or wrong answer.

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Can you still be friends with someone you've had previous feelings for? This relates. You have an attraction and it doesn't plan out the way you'd thought so can you still be friends? My current situation has put me in so many different emotions I'm not even sure what to do. I discussed this with my best friend last night and she said do what feels right even if its stupid. You're going to do stupid things in your life its just bound to happen. Your feelings are going to get hurt. I'm just in the process of picking myself back up for the hundredth time. I would love nothing more than to be friends with someone who hurt me. I'm one of those people who hates losing people from their life. I love the time spent getting to know people and little moments I remember about them. It makes me smile. It makes me realize were human and every day someone gets hurt you just have to realize life goes on. You can't cut people out every time they do something you don't like or something to you otherwise you'd likely end up alone. I think my wound is still fresh that I'm not sure whether I can handle a friendship. It's hard being 22 and having a friendship with a male that you're not dating or that you've had feelings for. It's hard to forget old feelings and go from kissing someone on day to not being able to because of someone else. I have self control but I just think it's hard at the moment.