"you don't find it, it finds you"

Life is all about stories. Everyone has their individual story to tell about every person they've ever met, had a conversation with, and thought at that moment they would remain friends for a lifetime. I feel like every friend we meet or share a moment with we never forget about. Each person changes us in some way that we become a better person in return or so its supposed to happen that way. Some change us for the better and others for the worse. I've always appreciated those who could make me laugh at my own faults. If you can't laugh at yourself once in awhile then your just stuck. Your constantly STUCK worrying about what everyone else sees in you with piercing eyes as thought they can actually see into your soul. Thats something that has always puzzled me. It may seem abstract but I've always believed I had somewhat of an abstract way of looking at things. Walking down the streets in New York City. Not being an actual New Yorker, when I look at people I look them in the eyes. Therefore walking down the streets in the city, when I look people in the eyes they put up a front as though they're hiding something, their insecurities.

It's been said time and time again in romantic comedies that when you meet that "special someone" you'll be able to look in their eyes and see their soul. It may sound sappy but I actually believe in it. You meet so many people that you "fall in love with" how do you know someone else won't come along later and make you realize you made a mistake. One would assume thats what causes divorce. People all make mistakes but how can we tell if we're stuck in the middle of one? what looks you in the eyes and convinces you not to go through with it.

Life is much more complicated than sitcoms and romantic comedies make it out to be. When your sitting in the theater or on the couch its hard to get back to reality when the movie is over and realize its not real. It was real in the mind of a writer who took the idea wrote it down and made it real but movies fail to acknowledge the pain and heartache day to day life has on people and the real world.

thats enough DEEEEEEP for now :)

The title "you don't find it, it finds you" is from the movie Definitely, Maybe.
I think it applies. People spend too much time trying to find their purpose and what they're supposed to do rather than sitting back doing what they love and what makes them happy. Instead they keep doing things they feel they're expected to do or supposed to do which in the end gets them nowhere with no fulfillment. Thats what I got out of the movie. This quote is a nice way to look at your life after graduation.

"its not who, but its when"
I also got this from the movie. I've been quite nostalgic about my life and the people in it lately. I think its self explanatory and goes along with "its not where you are but who your with that matters".